Odds Off

Yesterday I had an interesting conversation about changing. Not changing clothes or nappies or hair colour but about personal development. Changing who you are. It made me wonder a lot. Can an experience change you forever? Does something simply go SNAP and you have changed? Or do some of us have to grow and learn the lesson along the way? Or are these “changing circumstances” intertwined like a strangler tree uses its roots to take over the other tree? I personally don`t know. I grew up with two conflicting arguments. First one: It is important to change with the times but the second was don´t change for anyone! Surely if you change with the times you are changing for others? Then I ask the question when do we know when we need to change or when we should change? When is change good or bad? Do we lie to ourselves a lot and believe we have changed when simply all we have done is learnt a lesson? Do we kid ourselves that we don´t need to change because we know that with change comes a l

I discovered today that I have no problem making self discoveries about myself but I struggle keeping them. I couldn’t tell you how many times I have made a new years promise to cut out the ice cream and to only eat one rather than the whole package of yummy biscuits… Have I ever stuck to it for more then two hours… the answer would be no! I have the intentions of keeping to it but I find that I give in and then beat myself up about it. I then feel bad having not stuck to a promise I only made to myself and before I know it I am eating two tubs of ice cream to drown my sorrows….. It becomes a vicious circle.. and today I finally figured out a way out of it. Cut myself some slack. I started thinking about how there were things I would have liked to do differently. Things I wish I could have said, things I wish I could have done and so on and then I realized that when we are younger we get cut some slack. We are excused for making “mistakes” or as I would call them learning opportunities